KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议

KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议
今天和大家分享一些值得我们去细细体会的人生哲学...

本文来自美国著名杂志《连线》(Wired Magazine)的第一任主编凯文·凯利Kevin Kelly 江湖人称 KK),KK 本人涉猎广泛,在多个领域均有所建树,是知名的作家、摄影家、自然资源保护论者,同时还是亚洲文化、数字文化领域的学者。

KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议

写作生涯

凯文·凯利作品散见于《纽约时报》(New York Times)、《哈泼斯杂志》(Harper's Magazine)、《时代周刊》、《科学》、《GQ》、《时尚先生》(Esquire)、《经济学人》(The Economist),以及其他多种杂志。他的摄影作品曾发表于《生活》(Life)以及其他一些国家级杂志。此外,他还著有多本图书,主编、创办、协办过多本杂志。

27 岁时的凯文·凯利是一个自由摄影记者,他在耶路撒冷时曾因回去太晚,被锁在宾馆外面。于是他睡在耶稣受害的地方。次日早晨,他经历了一场神奇的宗教体验。他决定像一个只有六个月寿命的人一样活着。他与父母和平相处,匿名捐出自己的钱,看望亲友,然后在万圣节之夜回到家中“死去”。

1981 年,凯利创办了《行走》杂志(Walking Journal)。他曾担任《全球评论》(Whole Earth Review)、《信号》(Signal)、《全球概览》的编辑。他与《全球概览》的创始人斯图尔特·布兰德(Stewart Brand)一起创办了广受好评的在线社区 WELL。他曾是“要点基金会”(Point Foundation)的总监,1984 年首届“黑客大会”(Hackers Conference,需要说明的是,Hacker 一词当时还没有当下的贬义)便是该基金会发起的。

凯利最出名的图书作品是《失控》(Out of Control: The New Biology of Machines, Social Systems, and the Economic World,1994),这是一部思考人类社会(或更一般意义上的复杂系统)进化的“大部头”著作,对于那些不惧于“头脑体操”的读者来说,必然会开卷有益。

骇客帝国(1999 电影)

1999 年,著名导演沃卓斯基兄弟(The Wachowski Brothers)编剧并导演的电影《黑客帝国》(Matrix),在某种程度上是对凯文·凯利对网络文化的观察和预言的一种隐喻。《失控》也是该片导演要求主要演员必读的三本书之一。另外两部是:Jean Baudrillard 著的《Simulacra and Simulation》(《拟仿物与拟象》)和 Dylan Evans 著的《Introducing Evolutionary Psychology》。在关于黑客帝国的一系列采访中,可以见到关于凯文·凯利的介绍。

本文是 KK 分别在 68、69 岁生日时在其个人网站上写给年轻人的建议,非常地中肯,值得我们去细细体会其中的人生哲学。

感谢译言联合创始人,东西文库发起人,KK 在中国的出版人──赵嘉敏先生提供的中文译文(部分内容有删改)。

目前老爷子正在众筹一套关于亚洲文化的大部头书籍————《Vanishing Asia 消失的亚洲》,250 刀的确不便宜,但三大本全彩也确实算是物超所值了。喜欢的朋友可以去 kickstarter 支持下,估计今年 11 月就能发货了,目前豆瓣上还没有词条,不过相信一定会是爆款。

KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议
KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议
KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议
KK写给年轻人的68+99条建议

《Kevin Kelly 写在 68 岁生日的 68 条建议》
(1) Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
学着从那些你不认同甚至是冒犯你的人身上学习。看是否能从他们所信奉的东西中找到真相。

(2) Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.
充满热情抵得上 25 点智商。

(3) Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
做任何事都应该设个 deadline。它可以帮你排除那些无关紧要之事,并避免追求尽善尽美,而是努力去做到与众不同。差异胜于完美。

(4) Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.
不要担心自己问的问题听起来很傻。99% 的情况下,其他人都有和你一样的问题,只不过羞于问出口而已。

(5) Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more.
善于倾听是一种超能力。倾听你所喜欢的人时,要不时地追问「还有吗」,直到他们没有更多东西可讲。

(6) A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can’t believe how ignorant you were a year earlier.
一个有意义的年度目标是去充分了解一个话题。这样,(到了年底的时候,)你就会对一年前的无知感到难以置信。

(7) Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.
感恩可以解锁其他所有美德,也是你能做得更好的一件事情。

(8) Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.
不管是旧识还是新交,请他吃饭都是一个既简单又行得通的办法。

(9) Don’t trust all-purpose glue.
别信有什么万能药。

(10) Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations.
经常为你的孩子读书既能巩固你们的感情,也能开启他们的想象力。

(11) Never use a credit card for credit. The only kind of credit, or debt, that is acceptable is debt to acquire something whose exchange value is extremely likely to increase, like in a home. The exchange value of most things diminishes or vanishes the moment you purchase them. Don’t be in debt to losers.
永远不要用信用卡去透支。唯一可接受的透支或负债,应该用来获取那些极可能增值的事物。绝大多数事物在你买下它的那一刻起就开始贬值了。别为那些没有未来的事物而透支。

(12) Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.
所谓高手,不过是善于从跌跤中优雅起身的菜鸟而已。

(13) Extraordinary claims should require extraordinary evidence to be believed.
非同寻常的观点要有非同寻常的证据,才能令人信服。

(14) Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.
别成为一群人里最聪明的那个。和那些比你聪明的人待在一起,向他们学习。如果能找到和你观点相左的聪明人,那就更好了。

(15) Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
对话的“数字 3 原则”:想要摸清一个人的真正意图,请他就刚才所说再深入一些,如此反复,直到第三遍,你所得到的就近于真相了。

(16) Don’t be the best. Be the only.
别做最好的。做唯一的。

(17) Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
大家其实都很羞涩。没准儿人们正等着你去向他们做自我介绍,或是给他们发邮件,或是约他们见面。大胆往前走。

(18) Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.
如果被别人拒绝了,别往心里去。假设他们和你一样忙,一样腾不出手来,一样无暇分心。稍后再试一次。第二次的成功率超乎你想象。

(19) The purpose of a habit is to remove that action from self-negotiation. You no longer expend energy deciding whether to do it. You just do it. Good habits can range from telling the truth, to flossing.
习惯的意义在于无需再为某类行为纠结,不用再为要不要做它而费思量。做就是了。讲真话和用牙线都属于好习惯。

(20) Promptness is a sign of respect.
及时回应是表示尊重的一种方式。

(21) When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.

在你年轻的时候,至少花六个月到一年的时间,尽可能穷地过日子,尽可能少地拥有身外之物,居陋室而箪食瓢饮,以体验你可能会经历的最穷困潦倒的生活。这样,当你在将来需要行冒险之事时,就不至于为最糟糕的情况而忧心不已。

(22) Trust me: There is no “them”.
相信我,这世上没有“他们”。(注:出自爱尔兰摇滚乐队 U2 的一首歌 Invisible,"There's no them / only us"。)

(23) The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.
你越有兴趣了解他人,他人就会发现你越有趣。要成为有趣的人,先要对别人感兴趣。

(24) Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.
尽你所能行慷慨之事。没人会在死前后悔给出去太多。

(25) To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
想做好一件事,做就是了。想把一件事做到令人称颂,那就再来一遍,再来一遍,再来一遍。把事情做到极致的秘诀在于不停地重做。

(26) The Golden Rule will never fail you. It is the foundation of all other virtues.
“设身处地”是待人接物之道。它是所有其他美德的基石。(注:英文中,“黄金法则”是指应该用自己希望被对待的方式来对待他人。)

(27) If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.
如果你在房间里遍寻某样东西并最终找到的话,那么用完后不要放回你找到它的地方,而是放到你最初找它的地方。

(28) Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.
存钱和投资都是好习惯。几十年如一日不假思索地进行定期小额投资,是一条致富之道。

(29) To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is.
犯错乃是人性。难的是责己。承认错误,勇于担责,并尽力弥补——没有什么比这更可贵的了。是自己搞砸的,就该坦承。这反而能彰显你的强大。

(30) Never get involved in a land war in Asia.
永远不要在亚洲陷入地面战争。

(31) You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.
你既可以专注于服务你的客户或听众,也可以专注于打败你的竞争对手。两者都行得通。但专注于服务你的客户会让你走得更远。

(32) Show up. Keep showing up. Somebody successful said: 99% of success is just showing up.
在场。坚持在场。某个成功人士说过:99% 的成功只不过是因为在场。

(33) Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.
将创造和改进分开。你不可能在写做的同时进行编辑,也不可能在凿刻的同时进行打磨,更不可能在制造的同时进行分析。如果你这么做,求善之心就会打断创造之意。创新时就要忘掉已有方案;勾勒草图时就不能太着眼于细处。写作时,先打草稿而不要去抠细节。在新事物之初,创意的思想必须得到无拘无束的释放。

(34) If you are not falling down occasionally, you are just coasting.
如果你从未跌倒过,那么你也就从未努力过。

(35) Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
也许宇宙中最违反直觉的真理就是,你给予他人越多,你收获的就越多。这是智慧的起点。

(36) Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.
朋友胜过金钱。用钱能办到的事情,朋友可以做得更好。很多时候,自己有条船不如有个有船的朋友。

(37) This is true: It’s hard to cheat an honest man.
相信我,你很难欺骗一个诚实的人。

(38) When an object is lost, 95% of the time it is hiding within arm’s reach of where it was last seen. Search in all possible locations in that radius and you’ll find it.
当你找不到一样东西时,它往往就在上次现身之处的一臂之内。仔细搜寻这个范围,你就能找到它。

(39) You are what you do. Not what you say, not what you believe, not how you vote, but what you spend your time on.
你的所作所为定义了你——既不是你所说的,也不是你所信的,更不是你所支持的,而是你花费时间于其上的。

(40) If you lose or forget to bring a cable, adapter or charger, check with your hotel. Most hotels now have a drawer full of cables, adapters and chargers others have left behind, and probably have the one you are missing. You can often claim it after borrowing it.
如果你把电源线、充电器什么的丢在或落在某个地方,不妨去问问你的酒店。绝大多数酒店都会有满满一抽屉的电源线、数据线和充电器——都是其他人落下的,没准儿其中就有你的。酒店也并不介意你借用后随身带走。

(41) Hatred is a curse that does not affect the hated. It only poisons the hater. Release a grudge as if it was a poison.
仇恨是一种对被仇恨者并无卵用的诅咒。它只会毒害仇恨者。把你的怨恨当作毒药一样丢掉吧。

(42) There is no limit on better. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much we can improve what we start with.
没有最好,只有更好。个人的天分有高有低,但不论高低,自身的提升都永无止境。

(43) Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.
任何一项大工程(修房子、拍电影、开发 app)完成度为 90% 的时候,你都要做好心理准备:剩余的大量细节工作会占掉你另一段与之前相当的时间。

(44) When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.
离世时,除了名声,你什么都带不走。

(45) Before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear, and listen. Nobody talks about the departed’s achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving.
上岁数之前,尽可能多地参加葬礼并听听人们的谈话。没人会谈论死者的成就。人们记住的只有死者的人品。

(46) For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.
你购买实体商品时所花的每一元钱,将来都要再花一元钱去维修、保养,或是在它报废后处理掉它。

(47) Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe, and a skill you can get better at. It’s the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows.
任何真实之物都源于虚构之意。想象是宇宙中最强大的力量,也是你能够日益精进的能力。生命中可以因不知众人所知而获益的能力,仅此一项。

(48) When crisis and disaster strike, don’t waste them. No problems, no progress.
当危机和灾难来袭时,别错过他们。没有问题,就没有进步。

(49) On vacation go to the most remote place on your itinerary first, bypassing the cities. You’ll maximize the shock of otherness in the remote, and then later you’ll welcome the familiar comforts of a city on the way back.
度假时,先跳过城市,去路线中最偏远的地方。这样你就能最大程度地体验到异域风情带给你的冲击。而在返程的路上,你则可以享受熟悉的城市所带给你的舒适。

(50) When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.
当你被邀请在未来的某个时间点做某件事情时,问问自己:如果这件事情明天就启动,你会否接受?绝大多数邀约都经不住这种迫切性检验。

(51) Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.
不要在邮件里对他人品头论足——如果这些话你不会当面说给那些人听的话。要知道,他们早晚会读到你的这些评论。

(52) If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
如果你只是迫切需要一份工作,那么对老板来说,你不过是又一个问题。如果你能解决老板的很多问题,那你自然能得到这份工作。要得到一份工作,需要像老板一样去想问题。

(53) Art is in what you leave out.
艺术藏身于你所遗漏之处。

(54) Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
拥有物品很少能带给你极大的满足感。但拥有体验则能。

(55) Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.
研究的“数字 7 原则”:当你愿意就一个问题深入七层时,总能找到你想要的答案。如果你求教的第一层人不知道,那么就问问他们应该去找谁。如此追索下去。到第七层时,通常都会如愿以偿。

(56) How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
如何道歉?快速,具体,真诚。

(57) Don’t ever respond to a solicitation or a proposal on the phone. The urgency is a disguise.
不要在电话上答应任何请求或提议。所谓的紧急不过是个假象。

(58) When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.
当一个人对你粗鄙、无礼、刻薄、甚至是无耻下流时,当他们有病就好。这有利于你对他生出同情心,从而缓解冲突。

(59) Eliminating clutter makes room for your true treasures.
清除杂物,为真正重要的东西腾出空间。

(60) You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person.
你绝不会想要出名。不信的话,随便找本名人传记读读。

(61) Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.
经验往往被高估了。招募的时候,要看资质,技能则可以培训。许多令人惊奇和赞叹的事情,都是由第一次做的人做出来的。

(62) A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.
假期 + 灾难 = 冒险。

(63) Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.
买工具时,起步阶段一定要买最便宜的。升级那些使用频次高的工具。如果你的工具是用于工作,那么买你能买得起的最好的。

(64) Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment.
学会毫不尴尬地打 20 分钟小盹儿。(注:20-minute power nap 通常指午后 20~30 分钟的小憩。近期有研究表明,20-minute power nap 有助于提振情绪,提升专注度和创造力。)

(65) Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.
在你不知道自己真正的激情所在时,追寻心之所向往往会带你误入歧途。对年轻人来说,更好的格言是:“精通一件事,任何事。”在精通一件事的过程中,你可以顺着带给你更多快乐的方向继续深入,并最终发现你的心之所向。

(66) I’m positive that in 100 years much of what I take to be true today will be proved to be wrong, maybe even embarrassingly wrong, and I try really hard to identify what it is that I am wrong about today.
我敢肯定,我今天确信的很多事情在 100 年后都会被证明是错误的,甚至是错得离谱。而我非常努力在做的事情,就是去识别我对今天的错误认知。

(67) Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore all the many problems we create; you just have to imagine improving our capacity to solve problems.
从长远来说,未来取决于乐观主义者。成为一个乐观主义者并非要对我们制造的问题视而不见,而是要想象如何提升我们解决问题的能力。

(68) The universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success. This will be much easier to do if you embrace this pronoia.
整个宇宙都在背后为你而谋划。要相信,天助人愿。(注:pronoia 是 paranoia 的反义词。Paranoia 可以译为“迫害妄想症”,也即觉得所有人、所有事都与自己为敌的心理状态。)

《Kevin Kelly 写在 69 岁生日的 99 条建议》
(1) That thing that made you weird as a kid could make you great as an adult — if you don’t lose it.
儿时让你显得出格的事情会让你成年后与众不同——只要你还没有丢掉它。

(2) If you have any doubt at all about being able to carry a load in one trip, do yourself a huge favor and make two trips.
如果你担心一趟带不上所有家伙事儿,那就分两次带好了。

(3) What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. At your funeral people will not recall what you did; they will only remember how you made them feel.
达成目标所带给你的,远不及你为此而做出的自身改变。在你的葬礼上,人们不会记得你做过什么,只会记得你带给他们的感受。

(4) Recipe for success: under-promise and over-deliver.
成功的秘诀:不要承诺太满,而要超预期交付。

(5) It’s not an apology if it comes with an excuse. It is not a compliment if it comes with a request.
带有借口的道歉不是道歉;附有请求的夸赞也不是夸赞。

(6) Jesus, Superman, and Mother Teresa never made art. Only imperfect beings can make art because art begins in what is broken.
耶稣、超人和特蕾莎修女搞不了艺术。只有不完美的存在才能创作艺术,因为艺术始于残缺。

(7) If someone is trying to convince you it’s not a pyramid scheme, it’s a pyramid scheme.
如果某人试图让你相信这不是个老鼠会,那它就是个老鼠会。

(8) Learn how to tie a bowline knot. Practice in the dark. With one hand. For the rest of your life you’ll use this knot more times than you would ever believe.
学会如何打称人结。练习在黑暗中打;练习用一只手打。你会发现今后用到它的地方要远超出你的想象。
【称人结,也有叫单套结、帆索结的,是一种安全性较高也较容易解开的绳结。我照着视频学习了一下,闭着眼睛打应该没问题,单手打还不能够。】

(9) If something fails where you thought it would fail, that is not a failure.
预料中的失败算不上失败。

(10) Be governed not by the tyranny of the urgent but by the elevation of the important.
不要被事情的紧急性牵着鼻子走,而要看它的重要性。

(11) Leave a gate behind you the way you first found it.
穿过一扇门后,保持它原来开或合的状态。

【没想到这居然是一条写入英国《乡村守则》(The Country Code)的规则,原始条文是“Leave all gates as you found them”。 有兴趣的童鞋可以查看维基百科上的词条。】

(12) The greatest rewards come from working on something that nobody has a name for. If you possibly can, work where there are no words for what you do.
做一件没有人能说清楚的事儿会带给你最大的回报。但凡有可能的话,去做一件还未被人们谈及的事情。

(13) A balcony or porch needs to be at least 6 feet (2m) deep or it won’t be used.
阳台至少应该有两米宽才有用。

(14) Don’t create things to make money; make money so you can create things. The reward for good work is more work.
不要为了赚钱而去做事;而是为了做事去赚钱。干好工作的回报是有更多的工作。

(15) In all things — except love — start with the exit strategy. Prepare for the ending. Almost anything is easier to get into than out of.
在所有事情(除去爱情)开始时做好退出计划。为结局做准备。几乎任何事情都是陷入易而抽身难。

(16) Train employees well enough they could get another job, but treat them well enough so they never want to.
尽力培训员工,使他们能有更多的职业机会;尽心善待员工,让他们永远不会考虑跳槽。

(17) Don’t aim to have others like you; aim to have them respect you.
要以获得他人的尊重而非喜爱为目标。

(18) The foundation of maturity: Just because it’s not your fault doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility.
成熟的基本要素:不因事不关己而高高挂起。

(19) A multitude of bad ideas is necessary for one good idea.
无数个糟糕的想法中才能诞生一个好想法。

(20) Being wise means having more questions than answers.
有智慧意味着有更多的问题而非答案。

(21) Compliment people behind their back. It’ll come back to you.
背后夸人。别人也会背后夸你。

(22) Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes — take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.
绝大多数一夜之间的功成名就——事实上,任何显著的成就——都要经过至少五年(的准备)。请据此来规划你的人生。

(23) You are only as young as the last time you changed your mind.
你的年轻程度取决于你上一次改变想法的时候(距今有多久)。

(24) Assume anyone asking for your account information for any reason is guilty of scamming you, unless proven innocent. The way to prove innocence is to call them back, or login to your account using numbers or a website that you provide, not them. Don’t release any identifying information while they are contacting you via phone, message or email. You must control the channel.
任何人以任何借口向你索要账号信息,都可以认为他们是骗子,除非能证明他们是无辜的。而证明他们无辜的方法是,给你自己确知的号码打电话或登录你自己确知的网站,而不是用他们给你的号码或网页地址。不要在他们打给你的电话或是在回复他们发给你的消息、邮件中透露任何个人信息。你的数据安全你掌控。

(25) Sustained outrage makes you stupid.
持续的愤怒会让你变得愚蠢。

(26) Be strict with yourself and forgiving of others. The reverse is hell for everyone.
严以律己,宽以待人。反其道而行对谁来说都是灾难。

(27) Your best response to an insult is “You’re probably right.” Often they are.
当别人冒犯你时,最好的回应是“也许您是对的”。而通常他们确实是对的。

(28) The worst evils in history have always been committed by those who truly believed they were combating evil. Beware of combating evil.
历史上最严重的罪行总是由那些真心相信自己在与邪恶战斗的人而犯下的。警惕与邪恶做斗争。

(29) If you can avoid seeking approval of others, your power is limitless.
如果你不用在意别人的眼光,那你的力量就是无穷的。

(30) When a child asks an endless string of “why?” questions, the smartest reply is, “I don’t know, what do you think?”
当孩子不停地问“为什么”时,最聪明的回答是:“我不知道。你怎么看呢?”

(31) To be wealthy, accumulate all those things that money can’t buy.
积攒那些用钱买不到的东西可以致富。

(32) Be the change you wish to see.
成为你想要看见的改变。
【这句话曾被认为是圣雄甘地所说,但其实甘地并没有说过这句话。】

(33) When brainstorming, improvising, jamming with others, you’ll go much further and deeper if you build upon each contribution with a playful “yes — and” example instead of a deflating “no — but” reply.
在与他人一起头脑风暴或是即兴创作时,用令人鼓舞的“没错——而且”——而非令人泄气的“不——可是”——来回应每一条贡献,那你就能走得更深更远。

(34) Work to become, not to acquire.
工作是为了成长而非获取。
【注:此句出自美国作家和出版人阿尔伯特·哈伯德(Elbert Hubbard)。他以短篇故事《把信送给加西亚》(另译为《致加西亚的信》,A Message to Garcia)而闻名。】

(35) Don’t loan money to a friend unless you are ready to make it a gift.
别借钱给朋友,除非你已做好心理准备当作是送给他。

(36) On the way to a grand goal, celebrate the smallest victories as if each one were the final goal. No matter where it ends you are victorious.
在通往宏伟目标的路上,把每一次微不足道的胜利都当作最终目标来庆祝。这样无论在哪里结束,你都是胜利者。

(37) Calm is contagious.
镇定具有传染力。

(38) Even a foolish person can still be right about most things. Most conventional wisdom is true.
即便是一个蠢人,在大多数事情上也是对的。大多数老话都是有道理的。

(39) Always cut away from yourself.
切削时刀子的方向要朝外。

(40) Show me your calendar and I will tell you your priorities. Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you where you’re going.
从你的日程安排可以看出你看重什么事情;从你的交往圈子可以看出你会是什么样的人。
【我再补充半句:从一个国家的年轻人可以看出这个国家的未来。】

(41) When hitchhiking, look like the person you want to pick you up.
搭便车时,要表现得像是你自己愿意搭载的人。

(42) Contemplating the weaknesses of others is easy; contemplating the weaknesses in yourself is hard, but it pays a much higher reward.
审视别人的弱点很容易;审视自己的弱点很难,但这会让你受益匪浅。

(43) Worth repeating: measure twice, cut once.
值得多念两遍:量两次,切一次。
【这是一句木工谚语,指在动手切割之前要核查测量是否准确,以免浪费材料。也有译为“三思而后行”的。】

(44) Your passion in life should fit you exactly; but your purpose in life should exceed you. Work for something much larger than yourself.
生活的欲望应与自身相匹配,但生命的意义应超越自我。致力于那些超越自我的事情。
【passion 的常用译法是“热情”。不过,这种热情往往是受内心的欲望或渴望而驱动的,它和另一个词 lust 可以看作是同一个本源的正反两面。】

(45) If you can’t tell what you desperately need, it’s probably sleep.
如果你不知道自己迫切想要什么的话,那么答案很可能是“睡上一觉”。

(46) When playing Monopoly, spend all you have to buy, barter, or trade for the Orange properties. Don’t bother with Utilities.
在玩《地产大亨》(也译为《大富翁》、《强手棋》)时,尽你所能去购买、交换或是竞标那些橙色资产。别管那些水、电、气公司。
【在《地产大亨》游戏中,玩家在橙色地段停留的几率最高。】

(47) If you borrow something, try to return it in better shape than you received it. Clean it, sharpen it, fill it up.
还东西时,要让它比你借它时状态更好。清洗它,磨快它,加满它。

(48) Even in the tropics it gets colder at night than you think. Pack warmly.
即便在热带,夜晚也比你想象的冷。多带两件衣服。

(49) To quiet a crowd or a drunk, just whisper.
让人群或醉鬼安静下来的办法是对他们低声耳语。

(50) Writing down one thing you are grateful for each day is the cheapest possible therapy ever.
每天记下一件让你感恩的事情。这是成本最低的(心灵)疗法。

(51) When someone tells you something is wrong, they’re usually right. When someone tells you how to fix it, they’re usually wrong.
如果人们告诉你某件事是错的,他们通常是对的;但如果他们告诉你该如何去解决问题,那通常都行不通。

(52) If you think you saw a mouse, you did. And, if there is one, there are more.
如果你觉得自己看到了一只老鼠,那一定是看到了。如果有一只的话,就一定会有更多。

(53) Money is overrated. Truly new things rarely need an abundance of money. If that was so, billionaires would have a monopoly on inventing new things, and they don’t. Instead almost all breakthroughs are made by those who lack money, because they are forced to rely on their passion, persistence and ingenuity to figure out new ways. Being poor is an advantage in innovation.
金钱被高估了。真正的新事物很少需要大量金钱。不然的话,所有新发明都会被那些亿万富翁们所垄断,但并没有。相反,几乎所有的突破都来自于那些囊中羞涩的人——他们唯有依赖自己的热情、执着和才智,才能闯出一条新路来。穷,则思变。
【穷则思变这个成语中,“穷”的原意并非贫穷,而是“穷尽”,指事物走到了尽头。不过今天,这则成语更多用来指贫穷会促使人想办法改变现状。这和前段时间网上流行的“贫穷限制了你的想象力”是截然不同的两个视角。也许,限制想象力的从来都不是贫穷或富有。】

(54) Ignore what others may be thinking of you, because they aren’t.
不用在意别人怎么看你。他们也并不在意你。

(55) Avoid hitting the snooze button. That’s just training you to oversleep.
(闹钟响时)别按“稍后提醒(snooze)”按钮。这只能让你习惯性地睡过头。

(56) Always say less than necessary.
智者不多言。

【原文出自美国作家罗伯特·格林(Robert Greene)的《权力的 48 条法则》(The 48 Laws of Power)。意思是说,当你试图用言语打动他人时,说得越多,越显得你所言之事平淡无奇。要少言,要留白。《老子·道德经》中有“知者不言,言者不知”的说法,虽然不完全是一个意思,但可以参照着来回味。】

(57) You are given the gift of life in order to discover what your gift *in* life is. You will complete your mission when you figure out what your mission is. This is not a paradox. This is the way.
上天赋予你生命,是要你来发现你的天赋所在。当你找到你的使命时,你就完成了你的使命。这并非自相矛盾,而是道之所在。
【中文可以用三个字来概括这段话,就是“知天命”。】

(58) Don’t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good as you are.
投我以木瓜,报之以琼琚。
【这句纯粹是意译。原文直译是:“不要以他人对你的恶意来待他,而要以你的善意来待他”。】

(59) It is much easier to change how you think by changing your behavior, than it is to change your behavior by changing how you think. Act out the change you seek.
通过改变行为而改变想法,要比通过改变想法来改变行为容易得多。去实践你所寻求的改变。

(60) You can eat any dessert you want if you take only 3 bites.
如果你能只吃三小口,那任何甜点随你吃。

(61) Each time you reach out to people, bring them a blessing; then they’ll be happy to see you when you bring them a problem.
每次去到别人那里都能给人带来祝福的话,那人们也很乐意帮你解决你的问题。
【这段做了一定程度的意译。】

(62) Bad things can happen fast, but almost all good things happen slowly.
坏事无常,好事多磨。

(63) Don’t worry how or where you begin. As long as you keep moving, your success will be far from where you start.
不要太在意从哪儿或是如何开始。只要不停前进,你的成就将远远超越你的起点。

(64) When you confront a stuck bolt or screw: righty tighty, lefty loosey.
遇上卡住的螺栓时,记住:右旋(顺时针)紧,左旋(逆时针)松。
【相信我们都碰到过这种情况:想要把一个拧紧的螺丝拧松时,忽然就想不清楚该往哪个方向拧了。英语里面用 righty tighty, lefty loosey 这个押韵的短语来帮助记忆。不过,我还是会经常糊涂,特别是螺丝的位置是在物体的底部时。】

(65) If you meet a jerk, overlook them. If you meet jerks everywhere everyday, look deeper into yourself.
碰上一个混蛋的话,不用理他。总是碰上混蛋的话,好好反省一下自己。

(66) Dance with your hips.
要用你的臀部来跳舞。
【说实话,不是很清楚为啥。原文的评论里也有人较真儿说,交谊舞是不能动胯的,功夫全在脚上。但有科学研究表明,女性舞者摆臀的动作是最吸引异性的;而男性舞者则应该动脖子和上身,再加上右膝的快速动作。所以,这段建议其实不完整,有冒犯女权之嫌。应该再加上半句:(男舞者)要用你的脖子来跳舞。】

(67) We are not bodies that temporarily have souls. We are souls that temporarily have bodies.
我们并非短暂拥有灵魂的躯壳,而是短暂拥有躯壳的灵魂。

(68) You can reduce the annoyance of someone’s stupid belief by increasing your understanding of why they believe it.
如果你对某些人的愚蠢信念感到费解的话,不妨试着去理解他们为什么会有这种信念。

(69) If your goal does not have a schedule, it is a dream.
没有行动计划的目标只不过是白日梦。

(70) All the greatest gains in life — in wealth, relationships, or knowledge —come from the magic of compounding interest — amplifying small steady gains. All you need for abundance is to keep adding 1% more than you subtract on a regular basis.
生命中所有最重要的收益——不论是财富、人际关系还是知识——都来自于神奇的复利,它可以将持续的微小收益进一步放大。你所要做的,就是在日常基础上,持之以恒地加上 1%。

(71) The greatest breakthroughs are missed because they look like hard work.
人们之所以会错过重大突破,是因为它们看着就很难。

(72) People can’t remember more than 3 points from a speech.
一段讲话中能被人记住的点不超过三个。

(73) I have never met a person I admired who did not read more books than I did.
我所仰慕的人,读的书都比我多。

(74) The greatest teacher is called “doing”.
实践出真知。

(75) Finite games are played to win or lose. Infinite games are played to keep the game going. Seek out infinite games because they yield infinite rewards.
有限的游戏旨在分出胜负;无限的游戏旨在让游戏继续进行下去。去寻找那些无限的游戏,因为它们能带给你无尽的回报。
【关于有限游戏和无限游戏,可以读读「东西文库」出品的一本小书《有限与无限的游戏》。】

(76) Everything is hard before it is easy. The day before something is a breakthrough, it’s a stupid idea.
每件事在变得容易之前都是很难的。某个想法在取得突破之前都会显得很愚蠢。

(77) A problem that can be solved with money is not really a problem.
能用钱解决的事儿就不叫事儿。

(78) When you are stuck, sleep on it. Let your subconscious work for you.
碰到卡壳的时候就睡上一觉。让潜意识来帮你解决问题。

(79) Your work will be endless, but your time is finite. You cannot limit the work so you must limit your time. Hours are the only thing you can manage.
事情是做不完的,但时间是有限的。你不可能不去做事儿,但你可以控制你的时间。时间是你唯一能掌控的事情。

(80) To succeed, get other people to pay you; to become wealthy, help other people to succeed.
让别人付钱给你可成事;帮别人成事可致富。

(81) Children totally accept — and crave — family rules. “In our family we have a rule for X” is the only excuse a parent needs for setting a family policy. In fact, “I have a rule for X” is the only excuse you need for your own personal policies.
孩子对立规矩其实是接受甚至欢迎的。家长想要立规矩的话,只需声明“我们家对这事儿有个规矩”。事实上,你想为自己定规矩的话,也只需要“我对这件事情有个规矩”这一个理由。

(82) All guns are loaded.
所有的枪都是上了膛的。
【这是保证枪支安全的一条重要原则。永远不要将你的枪口对着人。】

(83) Many backward steps are made by standing still.
逆水行舟,不进则退。

(84) This is the best time ever to make something. None of the greatest, coolest creations 20 years from now have been invented yet. You are not late.
当下是创造的最佳时机。未来二十年内最伟大、最酷炫的发明尚未诞生。你一点儿都不晚。

(85) No rain, no rainbow.
不经历风雨,怎能见彩虹。

(86) Every person you meet knows an amazing lot about something you know virtually nothing about. Your job is to discover what it is, and it won’t be obvious.
你遇到的每个人都会熟知某个你几乎一无所知的事物,而你的任务就是发现这个事物是什么。答案并非显而易见。

(87) You don’t marry a person, you marry a family.
你与之步入婚姻的并非是一个人,而是一个家庭。

(88) Always give credit, take blame.
功劳归于他人,责难归于自己。
【西方人很重视给别人足够的 credit。该给别人的 credit 没有给,就构成 plagiarism(抄袭、剽窃),是非常严重的学术不端行为。国内年轻人缺少这方面的意识和习惯。如果你的成果中含有别人的工作,一定要明确声明,哪怕你觉得这种声明并不能给他人带来任何好处。因为这体现的是,你是否尊重事实并能如实陈述。】

(89) Be frugal in all things, except in your passions splurge.
在任何事情上都要精打细算,唯有你的热情无需如此。

(90) When making something, always get a few extras — extra material, extra parts, extra space, extra finishes. The extras serve as backups for mistakes, reduce stress, and fill your inventory for the future. They are the cheapest insurance.
做事留出裕量——多备些材料和部件,多留些空间和时间,多做些成品。这些裕量可以弥补错误、减轻压力,并可放入仓库以备将来所需。裕量是最便宜的保险。

(91) Something does not need to be perfect to be wonderful. Especially weddings.
某些事情即便不完美也很精彩,特别是婚礼。

(92) Don’t let your email inbox become your to-do list.
别把你的邮件收件箱当 to-do list 来用。
【很多时候我们并没有意识到,我们在把邮件收件箱当 to-do list 来用。比如,你可能会想着稍后再回复一封邮件;再比如,有一封看起来重要但又不紧急的邮件,你也许会故意让它保持“未读”状态,这样你有空或想起来的时候就可以把它读了。这些做法都不如用一个专门的 to-do list 工具来得有效。如果你想稍后再回复一封邮件,那就在 to-do list 里记上一笔;如果你想稍后再读某封邮件,同样把这件事记在 to-do list 里。当然,另一种做法是,立刻、马上把该做的事儿做了。第一时间读该读的邮件,第一时间回复该回复的邮件。任何管理工具都会带来额外的成本。】

(93) The best way to untangle a knotty tangle is not to “untie” the knots, but to keep pulling the loops apart wider and wider. Just make the mess as big, loose and open as possible. As you open up the knots they will unravel themselves. Works on cords, strings, hoses, yarns, or electronic cables.
解开一团乱麻的最好方法不是去“解”,而是把它不断向外拉扯,尽可能让它变大、变松。打结处就会自然而然地解开。绳索、软管、毛线、电缆,都可以用这种方法。
【也适用于想法或心情。】

(94) Be a good ancestor. Do something a future generation will thank you for. A simple thing is to plant a tree.
做一个称职的祖先,做一些造福子孙后代的事情。一件简单的事情就是种棵树。

(95) To combat an adversary, become their friend.
对敌之道是化敌为友。

(96) Take one simple thing — almost anything — but take it extremely seriously, as if it was the only thing in the world, or maybe the entire world is in it — and by taking it seriously you’ll light up the sky.
找一件简单的事情——任何事情,极其认真地对待它,仿佛它是世界上唯一的事情。只要认真对待,你就能照亮天空。

(97) History teaches us that in 100 years from now some of the assumptions you believed will turn out to be wrong. A good question to ask yourself today is “What might I be wrong about?”
历史告诉我们,今天我们相信的很多道理一百年后都将不再正确。今天给自己提的一个好问题就是:“我有哪些看法可能是错的?”

(98) Be nice to your children because they are going to choose your nursing home.
善待子女,因为他们会决定你的养老条件。

(99) Advice like these are not laws. They are like hats. If one doesn’t fit, try another.
这些建议并非什么金科玉律。它们更像是帽子。如果戴着不合适,换一顶就是了。

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